Saw this clip titled ‘World hates women’ with statistics and anecdotes to illustrate how women are suffering (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cwl7olQ54iw&feature=youtu.be&noredirect=1). I agree that there needs to be awareness around the numbers but I recoiled at the title. World hates women? I don’t think so. At least not the entire world. And, to me, it feels like we are perpetuating feminism extremism with messaging like this. You ought to hate men and pity women…is the message I get from this. I don’t think that’s the intention but maybe this is one of the reasons why people are hesitant in supporting feminism. Yes, we need to address the issues. Yes, we need to spread awareness. Yes, we need to look at the hard facts. But, no, we don’t need to make it harder than it is. We need to be able to find a way to spread love and compassion towards women even more rather than confirming their fears that the world hates them. Perhaps the message that we need to send out to women is that they are still loved, and always will be.
And that’s why I dislike rape being made such a big deal because it shames the women, it makes them feel less worthy, it makes them feel like they have something to hide, it makes them feel like they have done something wrong. It needs to be made a big deal but only in order to deal with the rapist and to address the larger issues that perpetuate rape. It needs to be treated in the same way as if someone brutally hurt someone, nothing more nothing less. Only if our mindsets change around this, will women start talking about it openly, without any shame and, perhaps, without so much bitterness. And I do think that will make us stronger.
And, I know, this is easier said than done.